Saturday, April 09, 2005

Why are some people so unlucky?

by the unthinker

Life is a game of choice.

For the soul to evolve to its desired level, it needs a variety of experiences.

Sometimes the soul takes a conscious decision to opt for a life of disappointments.

By making this choice, the soul is trying to answer a few probing questions.

Can I handle disappointments?

Can I take one defeat after another?

Will I crumble under the mountain of failures?

Do I have the steely resolve to break the cycle of defeats?

Can I develop the ability to let neither success nor failure affect me?

The answers for these tricky questions can only be uncovered by getting under the skin of a so-called jinxed being.

So if a person suffers all his life it is not because it was decreed by destiny.

It is because you made the choice.

You made the choice because you felt that you could handle it.

If you’re unable to take it, it just means you have the let the forces of negativism triumph.

Some people react rashly in such a situation.

They try to escape by opting for suicide.

What they forget is, the soul will continue to tread thorny paths.

Till it achieves its goal of overcoming the fear of fiasco.

29 Comments:

Blogger inlivenout said...

unlucky?nope,I guess.

7:06 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I dont know if what you 'ave said is true or not. but A lot of it does make sense, retrospectively. Things that make you go hmm....

12:00 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so what if i achieve in overcoming my so called fear of fiasco? i'll still be unlucky and failing in everything i do right?

9:40 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

We are what we think all day long. When something seemingly bad happens to us, we enter into a depression. It is the wrong thinking we do at that time which brings about more disaster. To overcome adversity don't give in to it. Think good and pure thoughts all day long and let satan (our bad thoughts) remain unheard in the pits of hell. There is great joy in overcoming adversity.

12:42 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don`t know what to do, I feel so unlucky, and it just keeps getting worse and worse ... Tbh I have always been an agnostic.

8:08 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

After 9/11 I lost my job due to war, I used up my savings to pay bills and forced to foreclose our home. I've been struggling since then and My chances of having a decent work is slimmer because of the current market. My Mother had a stroke in 2006, she was in coma for 2 weeks and she had no insurance,I borrowed and begged $25,000.00 to cover it.Now my wife for 18 years have not spoken to me for 4 months, due to lack of income and more financial difficulties. I send about 20 resumes every week to land any job. From 6 figure income to -$26.00 in my checking account. I never applied for any assistance from the governemnt aside from medicare for my 3 amazing children.

I wake up every morning with a great hope and wishing that it will
be a better day.

The most painful part was, when my 4 yr old daughter once asked me to buy some fries because she was hungry, and I had no money for it.

it's 2008, My car's tag is overdue, auto insurance was cancelled, No calls from potential employers, Creditors are constantly harrassing me, I've lost 30 pounds in the past 3 months due to missed meals, My wife wants to kick me out of our home, and I have $1 left in my pocket.

Should I feel Lucky because i am in America?Compare to people that are suffering in Africa. Must I constantly lie to myself on how Life is Beautiful? How about this, I am Healthy and that's should enough. Right?

I am 40 years old, seen and lived many painful mishaps.

I don't want to be negative, I just hate the fact that our world is
UNFAIR!!!

At 1 point, I understood why some people jumped off buildings or
planted bullets in their heads.

NOW, DON'T GET ME WRONG. DEATH STILL SCARES THE HELL OUT OF ME.

Let me know if you have any Ideas on how to live bad things and smile about it.

if there's a GOD, I just want him to give my children a better chance!!! That's it!!!

Best regards to everyone!!!!

2:02 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u SAYING THAT I MADE THE CHOICE OF MY BIKE BEING STOLEN FROM FRONT GARDEN??

4:41 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that s just mean, thats just trying to get the positive out of everything, thats bullshit, life sucks for some of us. Is it my fault i suffer from depression?

4:44 am  
Anonymous Pissed of guy said...

No i didnt make a fucking choice thanks. I DONT DESERVE THIS FUCKING SHIT!!!!

3:43 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

God will fuck you over any chance he gets...

God is an absentee landlord.

10:17 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my missus is shagging 2 arabs and a black guy....dat hurts

8:58 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To the person who lost his job after 9/11, i really hope you have a better, successful life in future.

12:28 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thank's for some reason this made me feel a bit better

10:33 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

For the person who suffered after 9/11, I am not trying to console u by just mere words dear brother, but trust me,if u keep praying to God u will definitely see the changes in ur life.

3:34 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thats a load of shit.
Being unlucky isn't the result of makeing some bad decisions... thats called poor judgement and we all do it.

Bad luck, out of your hands. getting robbed 3 nights in a row would be bad luck. Other people might walk the same street but luck decides on whom to target.
I guess the old saying "in the wrong place at the wrong time" applies here.

Just to clearify; i wasn't robbed 3 times in a row but i have bad luck on most things i do about 5 days a week.

11:44 pm  
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4:20 pm  
Anonymous Kyle said...

Reading uplifting passages like what you said always helps me fight off suicide.

I tend to be easily paranoid to the point where I don't know what's real or no.

However I find thinking positive thoughts like escaping into your favorite fantasy world with the intention of being positive will miniumize effects as if it causes evil spirits to be scared.

11:32 am  
Anonymous Kyle said...

It all has to do with the Aura which defines who you are in present tense:

Whenever I think negative thoughts and don't try to be uplifting (such as escaping into my fantasy world with the I-N-T-E-N-T-I-O-N on being more positive when I leave problems will get in a cycle.

I have a huge amount of negative baggage I have to clean up and will do so atom by atom until I either die and can get healed by the creator the hard way or I get a professional williing to absorb my karma for me.

1:05 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hmmm,m so unlucky .. nva got any sucess in life or in nethng ... bt no1 can give u solution n i dnt need "console" .. huh evn i dnt knw wat m writin bt m so depressdd ...

12:00 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was born to parents that constantly abused me. My mother was on crack all my life, Welfare was our only hope even though she never bought any food. My kids father was Killed when they were babies. i was assaulted by 3 females that cut me in my face with a razor blade. I have to wear that SCAR EVERYDAY OF MY LIFE. I have been all alone trying to raise my kids, i once bought me 5 scratch off tickets while at the store a guy behind me bought one and Won $10,000. I have nothing but bad luck and nothing seems to be getting better.

10:22 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i never find love. There is no body made for me in the world. My wait will never end. Why this happen with me only, i cant never find its answer. can anybody give me the answer?

2:21 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i came here thinking i was unlucky, reading some of your stories makes me realize i am in a very good place and just suffer from depression and past trauma.I wish you all a better life, i dont believe in god, the world is a chaotic place, you are all probably too fragile and aware for this brutal world but dont give up as you are what keeps me and others alive. you are not the unluckiest person in the world ( yeah that never helped me either but it is true) the fact you have internet access makes you luckier than most in truth, chaotic world of unfairness sadness happiness luck love hate belief denial and just about anything you can name all mixed together with no meaning or goal,experience it as best you can, dont feel too burdened as your life will pass in time as will anything you ever accomplished or anyone you ever knew, yeah scary but comforting also i hope, breath deeply and always look to the next morning, hope i dont sound like satan to the god believers (i of course dont know any more than you do and i hope you are right apart from the me going to hell bit which is pretty much anyones sentiment regarding that matter.. ) but from where i am standing none of it has any importance whatsoever apart from the realization our only existence is a beautiful testament to its own futility and luck or the lack of it are really an accessory to this and ....., gibberish... utter gibberish.... ohh come on half of you are drunk or stoned also im sure of it...that will probably offend a few but what the hell you suicidal types are offended by anything under the sun provided you can milk it, i should know we can smell our own, see what i m doing i am using this comment section as some sort of free unashamed form of therapy!! and fuck it s working!!! i m cured!! i want to live again!! im not unlucky Im just a pussy!! oh joy i see it all now!! join me in the realization!! hakuna mattata !!woop dee fucking doo!!waka waka, i could be your neighbour!!//??@@@ LIFE

2:13 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

heres is some help, i am the previous poster again, If you feel unlucky now it means you know this state is not the norm, if you know this it means you have experienced a different state before, so you were once lucky and now feel unlucky, however long each period is when the lucky feeling will come back none of what happened before will matter right? life is cycles of good times and bad times sometimes the bad times are longer than the good but remember once the good times come back the previous suffering fades...also i found the following, its brilliant Hypothetically, in a godless universe, there are bound to be people who suffer from extraordinary bad luck, statistically speaking. The odds against anyone being that person are probably rather large, considering all of the opportunities for good and bad luck to take effect, but, for argument's sake, let us suppose that you suffer from bad luck and will continue to do so for the foreseeable future.

If you're going to suffer from bad luck no matter what, then the only thing that you can really do is alter your perception of the world around you, and maybe even redefine what it means to be "lucky." I don't mean for you to put a sh-eating grin on your face and think happy thoughts all of the time, but just relax and enjoy the ride. You're here, life sucks, that's it. Use it. I don't know how. Write angsty poetry about how God has it out for you, or about that one love you'll never get back, or the job and dreams that will never come your way. Write stories about it, or paint, or just stand next to people who are having a bad day and point out that you're doing much worse and they should cheer up.
If your bad luck holds out, then whatever you do will be stolen by someone else and they'll make a crapton of money from it and you'll be stuck right where you are now, looking on Yahoo Answers for some glimmer of hope.

It's about perspective. Maybe your life is the worst, but I bet it isn't. If you want to be happier, do things for other people. Volunteer and do some good. The more you do, the more people will be drawn to you. Smile and sing for no reason. Some people will hate it and some people will love it. Be you as big and as best as you can, and someone, somewhere will be drawn to it.

But really, there is no need for hope. Life isn't worth it. It's totally pointless. I mean that in the most positive way. Even the luckiest person in the world, who succeeds at everything will one day die and rot in the ground and be forgotten by the world that will be devoured by the sun that will burn out and spiral ever inward as the galaxy collapses on itself and the universe degenerates into a swirling nothing of supermassive black holes and thermal energy. Even this will be ripped apart as quantum fluctuations shred the very fabric of what we consider reality, and a new universe stretches its physics-less mass and obliterates even the very molecules that once made you and me.
Keep things in perspective

2:54 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this is all coming form some hindu type theory bullshit.i would never chose bad thing to happen to me. just shut up with your nonsense

10:15 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can really relate to you, the original poster. I have had a hard life by anyone's standards, though I haven't experienced ALL the possible hardships in the world-- only a few, at a very extreme level. My mother was sadistically abusive to me from the moment I was born until I left her house at 18. Every kind of abuse there is, she did it. I never knew any different--no other adult ever came to my rescue or told me I wasn't the horrible, stupid person she constantly told me I was. My dad all but abandoned me. He divorced her, moved down the block and never raised a hand to stop her from beating me, humiliating me, and otherwise torturing me, for almost two decades. There were many other adults in our lives who knew what was going on-- none stepped in to protect me, never.

I entered early adulthood and floundered miserably. I developed a serious mental illness, including major depression and suicidal ideation, and spent my twenties in mental institutions. I watched my friends enjoy their lives, get careers, fall in love, get married, etc. I experienced nothing but loss and pain. It was pretty awful, but I worked hard to get better and hoped things would one day change.

I've recovered a lot since then, but still live in pain constantly and make many of the same mistakes. Things haven't changed very much, no matter how hard I work (and boy have I worked my a** off!!!) I have horrible romantic experiences, mainly I fall in love, but the other person rejects me, or I somehow push them away, either saying the wrong thing or something else. I'm considered to be very attractive. I'm older now, in my thirties, but I still get the looks and comments, and have since I was 14. I also grew up upper-middle-class with an excellent education. NONE OF THAT SHIELDS ME FROM THE PAIN OF MY LIFE CARDS. I still have to convince myself not to dwell on suicide almost every day. It is not self-pity. I just have so much pain that I can't control, it's just too much for a human being to bear. Especially when things don't get better--they either get worse, or stay the same level of bad, with different problems.

If you want to respond how grateful I should be and how lucky I am, save it. You don't know me, nor the horrible pain and humiliation I've suffered. I only shared this because it helps me so much when I see others' posts on sites like this who are going through similar things. I don't know if there is hope or if it will get better, but I hope I can help someone along the way, before I die, even if I never am happy myself.

8:10 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi all...just come across this site. I so feel for you and share your pain. Thank goodness for the internet. It can keep us sane. Just wanted to share my recent experiences. I had a sheltered childhood...raised on love. I've always considered myself a lucky person. But I feel so sad that my father had a stroke when I was 4 and this changed him. My mum had such a tough time looking after him...there were no support groups in the 60s like there are today. She also had her elderly father to look after and me to raise. I never really got to know my Dad & he died when I was 12. Mum sheltered me from the agony. Kids weren't really involved then. I really realised what I'd missed in a father when I see my husband relating to my kids. My hubby never had a Dad either ... the word Dad feels strange as I never used it. Anyway we had to put our beautiful springer spaniel Mollie to sleep yesterday. She was only 17 months...still a pup and it was one of the worst things I've ever had to do. I fell through the loft 8 weeks ago ..was hanging there. ..and somehow managed to hoist myself back..so feeling lucky to be alive as I was alone and so easily have been killed. Feeling very stressed as we had to have stuff put into storage and sleep on the floor in the kitchen. The house is never tidy but been in shambles ever since. This all spilled into Christmas and losing Mollie in the New Year just finished us off. However reading all your stories does put my problems into perspective. I do feel fortunate .... I have few good friends as well as a small family. I am a very sensitive loving person which at times goes against me...trying to toughen up. I'm a church goeras my mum was. This really helps. I would advise anyone to visit and just occasionally attend their local church if they feel low...because it can be very comforting and you will usually be made to feel welcome. Anyhow thanks for reading. If my passage helps anyone then I shall be a happier person today.

5:51 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Think positive even if you feel negative, little faith goes long way. So much negativity in this world. Do you really want to add to that.

4:51 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My unluckiness is in a particular area of my life. But compared to all of those previous stories, I'm extremely lucky. I don't know if it would help at all, but during my very unlucky periods, I found out that astrology actually can "explain" it.

I think life consists of various cycles of good and bad (based on astrology). Some cycles however are very long, and may outlast our natural lifetime. My site at www.betterluck4you.com calculates for free the Saturn cycle which is the most common cause for the depressions and unluckiness.

But anyway, nothing that I say or do would make you feel better unless things do get better. I truly wish all of you better luck, just like the name of my website.

4:14 am  
Blogger Life_Truth said...

life is so unpredictable , as much you go deeper to find the truth you will lost. If someone says you can change your luck by changing your way of thinking its nothing more than shit. I have seen lots of good people suffering for very basic things and bad ones getting all smoothly. If this universe is created it means some one must be controlling it and that is GOD. But we the humans are forced to perceive that GOD loves good people and finally they are blessed by the GOD. This is the root of our questions. the life and luck is nothing but flow of energies, if you have displaced some energies then it will affect you either in good way or in bad way, and according to the extent of the energy displaced by you in your life you will gain or loose in different sectors. Its all about energy spectrum of human body.
You would have seen some blind/handicaped persons of good heart and soul, even though they are suffering.
And about me, I was a very kind and helpful person from my childhood. I am now 27,, my childhood was vanished by my teachers without my mistake. I thought the good days will come and what I have suffered will be gone from my mind. But now I am on Dialysis.
Yes there is GOD and I still believe but It is like light or rays. It has some set of rules to control this universe. If you will pray to Even Hitler you will be given seldom because hitler had not heart but ears. But you are praying to an energy like light/air/water/rays type things which has no ears no heart like humans. Thats why we are disappointed

6:00 pm  

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